Three New People

Make the Most of Your Daily Interactions and Stop Missing Amazing Opportunities

“Miller brilliantly outlines a system for deepening relationships.” -Publishers Weekly

About The Book

Three New People is a manifesto on the beauty and power of human connection in a world where loneliness has reached epidemic levels. We’re rushed, frazzled, distracted, and frankly, scared to talk to strangers. But what if it didn’t have to be that way? What if we could easily connect with anyone we meet – on the airplane, at the coffee shop, waiting in line, in the elevator – and take the chance of making a new connection: one that might last for seconds, or for a lifetime?

As a child with social anxiety, Brian Miller used magic in order to make friends. Now, as a globetrotting professional magician turned motivational speaker, he presents his secrets for connecting with the people you meet on a daily basis.

Using engaging stories about a magician’s life paired with easy-to-follow techniques for breaking out of our normal patterns, this book shows us how to get past small talk, make others feel understood, use active listening, and learn something new about everyone we meet.

Brian’s life changed because a kind stranger said, “I like your hat.” How will your life change today?

“I felt like Keanu Reeves from the Matrix. I just closed the book and said, “I know conversational Kung Fu.” “

-Tim David, Author of Magic Words

What’s inside

The book is divided into 3 sections:

The Great Big Disconnect: An exploration of how we got here, and our goals for connection in an evolving world.

A Matter of Perspective: An aspirational deep-dive into perspective-taking and active listening.

New People: Practical strategies for implementing the techniques in Section 2 into everyday work and life.

Foreword by Zoe Chance

Researcher & Author, Yale School of Management

Before Brian Miller was a thought leader, he was a nationally touring magician with a flair for comedy and mind-reading. Do you know the paradox of mind-reading? It’s that even though the tricks are the result of clever illusions, in order to persuade an audience you can read minds, you have to be able to read people well enough to actually sort of be a mind reader. That’s why magic, and magicians, fascinate me.

The magic doesn’t come from the tricks themselves. When you’re a nerdy fangirl who’s watched hundreds of magic shows, you see many different magicians performing a lot of the same tricks. There are only a finite number of ways to surprise people with limited time and props. Every master will have a unique flair, and occasionally, you see something new and surprising. The first time Brian came to my class at Yale, he performed a mind-blowing mind-reading stunt that had students forming a chain of psychic links and somehow reading each other’s minds. I still have no clue how he did it, but it’s not the creativity in the trick that sparked our awe and wonder, it was something else.

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Amazon Reviewer:

“First up: I have struggled to admit that I’m rubbish at connecting with people. It’s like a taboo. Who wants to admit that they find it hard to make friends? That it’s been like that their whole life? That they haven’t got a ‘best friend’ and haven’t had one since school? That people come and go in their lives and they don’t quite understand why. Well, Brian does. He admits it, gives insight into it and makes you feel like you’re not some kind of pariah! And then he tells you what he did about it and how you can do the same thing.

His stories are honest and engaging and connected to practical steps to connect not just to three new people every day, but to your loved ones and the people who you consider your friends. So that in a years’ time you can consider them your good friends, and in ten years’ time you can consider them your close, old friends.
We have “How to Win Friends and Influence People’ on the shelf, which is a classic. This is the modern, accessible version that anyone will enjoy.

My children are benefitting and the people I’ve recommended the book to have been really grateful too. Read it. Thanks Brian.”

An exemplary and insightful book filled with wit, honesty, and knowledge.

-ArtisanBookReviews.com

Magician and speaker Brian Miller helps us think differently about human engagement in Three New People.

-Seths.blog

Our success is based on the quality of our relationships. As a magician and entertainer, Brian shares his best tricks of the trade on how to connect. A fun, quick, and worthwhile read.

-Shama Hyder, CEO of Zen Media

About the author.

Brian Miller is a former magician turned human connection specialist, who works with organizations that believe everyone deserves to feel heard, understood, and valued. His TEDx talk “How to Magically Connect with Anyone” has been viewed 3.5 million times. Brian believes every individual has the power to not just join the human connection revolution, but to lead it.

Hire Brian to keynote your next event, or guide an interactive workshop on human connection.